I am a single mother (never married). I had my first child at 27
and my second at 30. I do not fall into the category of teen mother, drug
user, child abuser, incarcerated or widowed. I fall in the category of fit
parent being sued by a malicious, controlling and hateful mother (my bio mother).
I grew up in an emotionally, mentally, physically and sometimes
sexually abusive family. As an adult, I made a decision that that legacy stops here.
I would not pass the abuse down to my children. The children would have
a childhood.
My mother continued to undermine my parental rules, berate me in
front of my children, and put my child in compromising situations of which
I was not aware of nor would ever consent to. As she continued her lack of respect,
I limited her contact with my children. When she bought my 8 year old a gun
and taught him how to use it against my parental rules, I cut off physical
contact.
The subsequent phone calls began to take its toll on my family
when my son began to tell me he did not have to follow my rules. These
verbal attacks always occured after phone contact.
A few months later she called CPS with malicious and slanderous
lies about me abusing my son. CPS visited me three days after Xmas 97. They closed the
case and noted that no abuse was evident and they also noted the hostility between my ex-mother
and myself in case she called again. She called anonymously and to this day she
denies she made the call.
I cut off all contact on 1/16/98 due to her continued lack of respect for my parental rules, her malicious call to CPS and the
harm my family was experiencing with all the emotional turmoil. Five days
later I was sued for gp visitation. We never made it to court. We went to mediation
who recommended counseling to see if we could work out an agreement
where I would feel comfortable releasing my children to her. Out of 13 rules
she violated 7. I suspended the visitation in 11/98. She filed an ex-parte in 12/98.
That was denied. To date the visitation is still suspended.
It is important that we educate the judicial system of the unconstitutionality of these gp laws.
It is time that changes be made to this law to keep fit parents
from being sued. We have a constitutional right to chose who our children
will associate with and we as parents should not have to defend ourselves against
gp laws which violate this right.
I also think that gp rights should be changed to gp interests.
gps don't have rights. Parents have rights. And along with that, responsibilities.
Parents have a responsibiltiy to keep our children from possible abuse
and harm.
One comparision I use for responsibility is : If a daycare provider
was treating my children the way the gp treats my children I would
be expected to remove my child from that daycare provider. The courts are ignoring
the parents responsible actions to provide a safe environment for our
children. Major violation of our constitutional rights/responsibility.
As a fit parent, I shall determine what behavior is harmful to
my child.
|
